Born at the very end of 1969

In a beachside town of Long Island. Youngest of 4, raised deeply in the catholic church and indoctrinated by the social norms of that time around how a “good girl” should act, and the false information about sex, my body, and my worth. I received so many confusing messages around sex, love and relationships. It was both intriguing and terrifying. But I was drawn to explore it all.

Chaos was normal.

My nervous system as a kid was set to fight, flight, freeze, or fawn most of the time. My family experienced wave after wave of different forms of trauma. Anxiety, worry and violence spurred on the need to numb out, run or fill the void with adrenaline stimulating activities. As a teen, I loved dancing, parties, adventure and having sex with my boy friend. I felt safe having sex when I was in a long term relationship, as I was terrified of slut shaming.

Movement was, and still is, my medicine

Gymnastics, soccer, dance, swimming, climbing trees, biking, running… I loved to move. It exhilarated me, it calmed me, it brought me back home to myself.

After a knee injury and 2 surgeries, I was limited physically. My life shifted, and I went into a depression and started drinking more. And that behavior lead to me getting sexually molested, a couple of times, while intoxicated. I dropped deeper into depression and self loathing. I blamed myself. I just wanted to numb out and not feel.

My sexual awakening

Dance and my new boyfriend- now my husband of 31 years- pulled me out of my dark night of the soul. He was a lead singer of a rock band, and I was an art college grad working as a fitness instructor and personal trainer when we met.

Through a set a circumstances where I was broke and needing to make more money, he jokingly said, “You can alway become a stripper,”. But that joke lit something up inside of me. I was excited by that. I loved to dance. I loved to wear sexy clothes. To imagine making money doing this was thrilling.

So, I went for it. I fell absolutely in love with the art of exotic dance. I loved the way it made me feel. I felt powerful, beautiful, confident. I expressed myself through clothes and music and creative dances. Yup, I was that stripper, who really loved the “show” of it all - like in the movie Burlesque. I started to thrive! I was in love with my man, and in love with sexy dancing. I discovered a new freedom with sexuality both in my relationship and with myself and how I thought of myself. It actually boosted my self-esteem rather than bringing it down, as is so often depicted in movies.

With the increased money I started making, I put myself through massage therapy training, which became my career throughout our married life. I became a Kripalu certified yoga teacher, a certified biodynamic cranio-sacral therapist and ecstatic dance teacher. I studied with Gabrielle Roth, the 5 Rhythms, Journey Dance, Shake Your Soul and also the S Factor.

Becoming

I only danced full time for a couple of years. When I got my massage license in 1995, my man and I moved to Saratoga Springs, got married, had 3 kids, had lots of dogs and cats, set up businesses, and became part of the yoga community.

But that thrill and love of exotic dance was in my blood. I would secretly dance here and there, not wanting my community to know.

That all changed when Sheila Kelly (SFactor) started teaching pole dance classes as a fitness option and empowerment tool… I was all in! I totally had all the skills to do the same. I launched “Sisters Rock” pole dance classes and hosted many, many bachelorette parties and sexy dance workshops. It was so much fun!!!

I was teaching therapeutic yoga and ecstatic dance, but I was enthralled by anything that had to do with sacred sexuality. I devoured as many books on the subject as possible. Because I still had this catholic-girl-old-belief deep within me that I was somehow bad or dirty because I enjoyed erotic dance and sex. I also was becoming aware that I needed to heal my sexual trauma wounds and triggers. So when I found Tantra and the left-handed style I was also… All in!

I started taking workshops, immersions, trainings in the area of sacred sexuality. I studied the goddesses, took a tantra priestess training then the Urban Tantra certification training. I took a peek at conscious kink and learned that BDSM can bring you into transcendent states much like deep meditation can do. I took Layla Martins Sacred Sexuality online course which lead me to finding the VITA, Sex, Love and Relationship certification course. Again… I was, and still am, all in!!

This was extremely exciting to take on and daunting as it is a lot of work. This program is by far the best in its field. It goes above and beyond my expectations. I have learned so much and my life is transforming day by day from this powerful work. I can’t wait to share it with the world.

I believe EVERYBODY should know what I have learned and have the tools to create the best life of your own desires and to transform the things that block you for that.

Gratitude for Recovery

I am deeply grateful to be clear headed, sober and healthy. I am a woman recovering from injury, trauma, drama, sexual abuse, alcohol abuse, unworthiness and patriarchy (the system, not the men).

In a nutshell…

I am a spiritual being having a human experience.

I am a mother, a wife, a sister, a daughter, a friend. I am an artist, a teacher, a bodyworker, a dancer, a yogini, a tantric priestess, a coach and guide.

I am a lover of life, mamma nature and all things Shakti. I am an aspiring Goddess, Warrior, Badass and Queen.

I am a woman on a path to reclaim my life, my health, my sexuality and authenticity.

I am enthusiastic about…

Helping women cultivate their own sexual creative energy for personal awakening and reconnection with their own unique expression of feminine power. 

Coaching men to attain higher state awareness, enjoyment and health in their intimate lives.

And working with couples to heal, build connection, passion and pleasure in their relationship so they can THRIVE.

I am currently studying Love, Sex & Relationship Coaching with Layla Martin - VITA

By December 2024 I will have completed 600+ hour training in the VITA methodology, Plus 60+ hours of coaching practicums. In 2025 I will be working on my majors - Feminine Empowerment, Tantra and Sexuality which will be at least 400+ more hours of in-depth training.

I will be taking new clients in January 2025. I will be a certified Sex, Love and Relationship Coach.

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